The romantic and sexual spark of your marriage can last for the rest of your life with a little bit of imagination, open communication, and lots of love. Contrary to public belief, a couple’s sex life doesn’t die when you hit the age of sixty or even seventy. For many creative couples, such dates are simply reminders that another kind of sexual adventure is called for.
Men, Age, and Sex
As a man advances on his years, there’s a proportional decline in his testosterone levels, which subsequently affect his sexual desires and functions. Such changes, however, should not be allowed to completely eliminate your sex life.
Lower Sexual Interest
Yes, believe it or not but your sex drive will not be as strong or as active as before. But it’s still there and if you want to keep your marriage as passionate as before then you need to be proactive. Don’t wait until something catches your sexual interest. Create situations that will lead to sexual desire and fulfillment.
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Increased Need for Stimulation
In the old days, you only had to glimpse your lady’s legs and you’d be raring to go. But nowadays, your beautiful wife could be standing naked before you and the sight of it could only be something you’d like to admire from a distance.
This doesn’t mean that you love your woman any less, and it’s critical that you make your wife understand this. Such occurrences are simply a result of the changes that your body is experiencing because of your advancing age. If you and your wife dare to exchange stories about the sexual changes you’ve been experiencing lately, she’s sure to reveal similar incidents as well.
In any case, an increased need for stimulation should be taken in a positive light. View it as a challenge or as an opportunity to do something a little bit different.
Shorter Orgasms
Your orgasms would not as last as long as they did before, but if you care more about your partner’s pleasure then that shouldn’t matter, should it? Besides, if this one doesn’t last as long as you like, you could always try for a second round? Your wife shouldn’t mind.
There are, however, a few things you can do to prolong your orgasm and you don’t even need medication for it. It’s just a matter of practice, discipline, and control.
For starters, you should concentrate more on stimulating your wife’s pleasure. That will make you a more wonderful lover in your wife’s eyes, but more than that, you are less likely to ejaculate prematurely or experience a short-lived orgasm.
When you are about to climax, try for a more controlled flow or rhythm of your movement. This will help prolong your orgasm. It will not be as explosive as before, but it’s certain to last longer.
Longer Time to “Recuperate”
Expect intervals between sexual intercourse to be longer than usual. For that matter, semen ejaculation will not be as abundant or as forceful either, but you should not let this affect your ability to derive pleasure from making love with your wife.
During such intervals, you can use the time with sexual foreplay or simply cuddle. Women love that and maybe, at your age, you’ll learn to be fond of it as well.
Women, Age, and Sex
Women, too, experience changes with their bodies as they grow old and such changes could likewise affect their sex lives. For starters, going through menopause could make them less inclined to have sex and could even make sexual intercourse painful. They also have a harder time than usual achieving a ‘wet’ state, which allows for easier, smoother, and more enjoyable penetration.
But again, there are things that women can do to continue enjoying married sex even in their advanced years and without taking any type of treatment or medication.
Use lubricants.
It’s essential that your husband understands your need for additional lubrication doesn’t mean you desire him less. It’s simply a part of the natural process of life and must be taken as such and no more or less than that.
There are various types of lubricants available today so make sure you use something that you are comfortable with and definitely not allergic to. Try using it in foreplay and your husband would be less threatened by it.
Use vibrators and other sex enhancement devices.
As you advance in years, you, too, could experience lower sex drives, which makes it even more difficult for you to achieve an orgasm. Again, this should not be considered as a result of your husband’s poor lovemaking abilities.
Instead, you and your partner should use this as an opportunity to try new things such as sex enhancement devices. A vibrator, for instance, could be used to help stimulate your pleasure and ensure that you and your husband achieve an orgasm at the same time. If that has never happened before then maybe that’s one thing you could thank old age for.
You can also use a vibrator to keep you sexually satisfied or even climax when your husband has climaxed first or is in need of time to recover from your last bout of sex. The sight of you pleasuring yourself may even serve to arouse your husband and make him ready for your next round more quickly than usual.
Communication is the Key to a Healthy Marriage
Communication – open, constant, and positive – will keep your married life not just sexually healthy but in all ways that count. Make an effort to communicate not just about necessary and practical matters but also to simply exchange words of affection. Take pleasure in saying words such as ‘I love you’ and ‘hello’.
Communication prevents any misunderstanding and helps you to appreciate each other more inside and outside the bedroom. There will be times when it’s impossible to have sex for a variety of reasons, but even so, you will never fail to experience pleasure from your marriage because your constant communication strengthens and deepens the love and trust between you and your partner.
